Dating With MS
You might have a lot of thoughts and concerns around the world of multiple sclerosis and dating.
Watch the video above to learn more about Sebastian’s tips for dating with MS, or read the written summary below.
Are They the Right Person?
Try to figure out what kind of person you're dealing with. Has this person previously shown signs of being a caring person? Would you feel comfortable telling them about it? And feel like they would react in a positive way? Just make sure that it's the right kind of person so that you're not wasting your time.
If you feel like saying it on the first date that’s okay. There's no right or wrong way to go about it. And, worst case scenario, it might get rid of unworthy candidates.
Be Prepared for Unwanted Comments
Be aware of the fact that you might get some unwanted responses. I've had people just look at me with a faint smile and just shrug. And then I've had people tell me, "Oh yeah, I know someone with MS who lived very long." …Alright, thank you. Do it however you feel is the right way. Each situation requires a certain approach.
Stay Calm
One word of advice when you present the topic is try not to make too much of a fuss about it. Try to be casual; why would you want to worry them before they even get to know you? With each time you tell someone about it, the more casual you become about it, and the more comfortable you become with the subject yourself. Even after getting shrugs and smiles, and comforting or positive words, I find that it's helping me become stronger and more accepting of my condition.
Don’t Be Ashamed
Keep in mind that it's not something that you should be ashamed of. You don't need to hold back in any way. Remember that MS doesn't define who you are and just do what feels right for you.
